In case you didn’t know – we are getting very close to the international day of love… Valentines Day.
Being single doesn’t automatically mean you will feel sad and lonely. In fact, if you are like me, you’re probably not a huge fan of the day single or not and it will pass like any other.
However, when you are newly single, Valentines Day can be tough – particularly if it is your first since separating and seeing hearts, roses and public displays of affection via your Facebook feed might be the last thing you need.
Rather than be sad, and I hope that you aren’t – I have come up with 5 things you can do on Valentines Day if you need a boost.. or cheering up.. and you feel like you should mark the day somehow:
- If you were the one who ended your relationship – use the day to celebrate loving yourself enough to make that choice – send yourself a valentine or do something else to celebrate “you”.
- If you have kids or friends – organise to meet them for a picnic lunch or dinner at a park or playground.. think Botanic Gardens – Adelaide or Mount Lofty, any of our glorious beaches… or a lake.
- Grab a friend and go for a walk. Get those endorphins pumping. At the beach. Around the block. Or for those who like a little more challenge to your walk: try Waterfall Gully to Mount Lofty Summit… (although I’ve heard the stairs at Seacliff are a challenge too if you want to combine your beach visit with some tough exercise!).
- Invite a friend over for dinner and a movie.
and if none of those suggestions strike a chord…
5. Get extra sleep. Go to bed early – it might be that I have three children under 4 and have had about 4 hours sleep in as many years – but the gift of sleep cannot be underestimated.
Whatever you decide to do – celebrate you. Be kind to yourself and if all you feel like doing is hiding under the bed with a box of tissues, some chocolate and crying until the day passes, that’s okay too.
Megan Sweetlove is a divorce lawyer and the owner of Sweetlove Family Law. Megan has worked with families who are experiencing separation and divorce for the past 10 years and is committed to assisting her clients find respectful outcomes to their separation, away from the Court process and with a focus on having a healthy future.
If you or someone you know needs assistance during divorce you can organise a complimentary 20 minute phone appointment with Megan here.
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