Are you preparing to negotiate with your spouse?
If so, keep in mind that “negotiating” is simply a conversation with the purpose of trying to reach an agreement with your spouse that works for both of you.
Negotiating is not about who is right and who is wrong.
That’s right, I said negotiating is not about who is right, and who is wrong.
It is an opportunity to solve a problem in a way that works for both of you.
And in solving the problem in a way that works for you both, you both move forward feeling satisfied with the agreement made.
Something you may not know: in really, really simple terms, if you were to ask a Judge in the Family Law Courts to decide what your parenting arrangements should be, or how your property should be divided, after reading and listening to all the evidence, the Judge doesn’t make any declaration about who is absolutely right or absolutely wrong.
The Judge makes a decision based on the balance of probabilities. This means they consider who is “probably” more right after listening to all the evidence.
On that basis, wouldn’t you rather keep trying to solve that problem together in a way that works for you both.
Choose happiness over being right – it’s far more cost effective and efficient.