As you move through the process of untangling your relationship and sorting out all things financial and child-related, give some thought to the long-term cost or benefit of your communication style.
It can be easy to send a quick retort or a negative message while you’re untangling your relationship and sorting out all the stuff.
It can be easy to be snarky.
It can be easy to say “no” to any request or proposal being made – even if it seems reasonable, or something you would usually agree to.
But, what’s the long term cost of that approach?
Even if your spouse is sending angry texts, you don’t have to.
You can choose to respond in a calm, kind manner.
You can take time to respond (assuming there is not an emergency).
If you have children, the approach and actions you take now, are going to establish how your relationships look in the future.
Your actions, and communication style now, are going to impact the relationship you have with your children in the future.
Choosing to communicate well is going to give you the greatest opportunity for positive interactions and connections in the future.
Choosing to communicate in an unproductive way is going to leave you with a relationship debt you’ll need to repay in some way in the future.
If you want to communicate in a kind and peaceful way, and you haven’t been, it’s not too late to form new habits.
Establish a new way of communicating.
Create a new standard in your life and communication style.
Create a new standard for which you want to be known. And then build on that standard.
You’ll thank yourself in time.
Megan Sweetlove is a divorce lawyer and the owner of Sweetlove Family Law. Megan has worked with families who are experiencing separation and divorce for over 10 years.
Using a kind, compassionate and caring approach, Megan will work with you to develop a strategy that will enable you to have a successful separation and to work out the best way to move forward, taking into account your economic and emotional needs.
If you or someone you know needs assistance during divorce you can organise a complimentary 20 minute phone appointment with Megan here.
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