Why you won’t find me on social media, for now.
In short, I’m taking an extended break, I’m just not sure for how long.
To be honest, I feel like this a post that shouldn’t be needed, however, I feel like I need to explain to you why I’m not on social media because I have a business. Perhaps you’ve visited my Facebook or Instagram page before, and you’re a little concerned or confused about why it’s not there anymore.. Or perhaps you are so used to businesses having social media pages these days, you’re curious about why I don’t… and what does it mean? Either way is, this is why I wrote this post.
Please don’t worry – there’s no exciting story; no hidden meaning behind my choice – personally or professionally.
My health is great, I’m enjoying work, and most importantly – my children are thriving, happy and energetic small humans.
The truth is, each decision since starting my own law practice, about how I will run my practice has been very deliberate and purposeful. And each decision has been made with my, and my family’s health and happiness in mind – from how and when I will work – and what I can do to make your life easier through this process – to how I want to spend my time when I’m not working.
And so we come to my decision to take a break from social media.
It’s more about a growing comfort I have developed with the idea that being on social media is optional.
I feel like social media is one way of communicating, but it’s not the only way and I don’t want it to be the primary way I communicate with you, with my friends, with my colleagues.
I’m not suggesting social media is bad. Not at all. I’ve learned some amazing things, and met some really inspiring and wonderfully kind, creative and generous people through social media.
Social media has helped me to get in touch with people from my past who I otherwise lost contact with and has helped me form new friendships.
On the other hand, ironically, I feel like it’s made life a bit less social, a bit less connected, and a lot more hurried.
Connection online comes through likes, hearts, claps, and comments. I have a constant urgent need to check and/or respond in a short timeframe to any comments or messages. And so I never really feel like I can switch off properly. Sometimes that need to be available online, leaves me feeling overwhelmed and torn from being available at home and investing my time in the things I love doing away from work.
To be perfectly honest, I miss having actual conversations. I enjoy having actual conversations. I enjoy hearing someone I’m talking to laugh – hearing the tone in their voice.
In the interests of full disclosure, I take as much responsibility for this slightly less-social-more-hurried life we’ve created as anyone – it’s easy to feel like we’re maintaining human connection as we move, endlessly, through various platforms – liking, loving, laughing or commenting as we quickly scroll ahead to the next post.
There’s a lot to be said for personal emails, private texts between friends, phone calls, face to face conversations, snail mail — there are so many different ways that relationships can be developed and maintained.
Social media is one way to develop and maintain relationships, but, I’ve come to realise, it’s not the only way.
And so that is why I chose to take a break from social media.
“You can still do both”, I hear you say.
Yes, I could.. but then we come back to the deliberate and purposeful choices I have made over the last few years and in an effort to reduce the feeling of overwhelm and needing to hurry through all the things, I’m reducing the list of what “all” the things looks like.. does that make sense?
I will continue to re-evaluate my relationship with technology. Perhaps I will pop back at some point, however, right now I’m enjoying the break, the divide my break from social has created between work and home, switching off.. reading more… playing more.. resting more.. feeling calmer.. feeling more patient.. less overwhelmed.. I’m painting.. creating.. thinking more and scrolling less.